Parenting

When it comes to communication it isn’t about winning every argument
I was in the park the other day watching this little boy and his father interact with one another. As my daughter and I watched it took me back to this great story I was told about a young boy who was taught a valuable lesson by his Father. All about controlling emotions and how the words we say r...
How to Communicate Effectively with the other parent
One of the greatest causes of conflict in any co parenting relationship is miscommunication. As humans we always think we are much better at communicating than what we actually are.  Especially when it comes to listening.  I recently read a story of an old man and his grandson who were w...
How do you get the other parent see your point of view?
How often have you thought to yourself.... why can't my ex see things my way???? Well for every time you have thought of this, so have they.  Let me tell you a story about Sam. Sam’s relationship with Jenny ended just over two (2) years ago and during that time the conflict hadn’...
Spend some time with your kids outdoors.
Kids benefit greatly from outdoor play! It offers the freedom to develop athletically, sunlight for vitamin D, and opportunities to socialise with family and friends. Outdoor play is an integral part of a child’s emotional, physical and mental development, so why not get involved? Bikes are a...
What about my rights?
Who has the rights - the parent or the child? If I had a $1 for every time a parent said to me “but I have rights” - I would be very rich by now!  The truth is - you don’t have rights. Your children do. It is not your right to spend time with your kids.  It is your chil...
How do you Tell Your Children?
Separation and divorce is unpleasant, to be completely truthful, divorce is an absolute world-wind of emotional turmoil. But, one of the hardest aspects of separation or divorce is explaining your decision to your child/children and trying to manoeuvre a conversation of such heartbreak. While there&...
Parenting Programs
Don't gasp - parenting programs aren't that bad! Have you suggested that your ex attend a parenting program only to be met with a gasp and fury? It really isn’t that surprising when you think about it – how would you like it if someone told you that you needed to do a parenting program?...
Technology Facilitated Abuse in Co-Parenting Communication
Technology facilitated abuse in co-parenting communication It is common for victims of domestic and family violence to be court ordered to co-parent with their ex-partner.  Just like separated families who have not experienced domestic or family violence, regular communication with your ex-partner ...
Separation with domestic violence
Separation with domestic violence If you are considering leaving a relationship that is dominated by domestic violence, there are many things for you to think about before you walk out that door.  Of course, if you are in physical danger, get out right now!  And please DON’T GO BACK!  Research ...
Co-parenting Communications and DV Relationships
Co-parenting Communications and DV Relationships Communicating about your children with your co-parent who is either your ex-spouse or significant other is never an easy thing to do.  Parents who do communicate successfully, keep their children as the focus of their communications and they respect...