Christmas Day - How are you celebrating yours?

by Lorrie Brook / OCA / 14 Dec 2015

Knowing how to organise Christmas Day can be difficult here are some options to consider.


Christmas is only a few weeks away now – and today we are going to talk about how to organize Christmas Day. If you have parenting orders in place then this may not be relevant for you but if you don’t have orders in place then here are some options for you to consider when organizing your Christmas Day.


There are really 2 main options:


Option 1 – Alternating Christmas Day

Alternating Christmas Day means just that. One year you will have Christmas and the next year you won’t. This works especially when there are long distances involved or there is high conflict.


Option 2 – Splitting Christmas Day

If you live close to each other and your conflict is at a manageable level then this is a great option for you. Splitting Christmas Day sees that one of you has the opportunity to wake up with the children on Christmas Morning and the other will see them to bed on Christmas Night with changeover usually taking place around lunch time. For most families this will then be reversed on a year about basis but this doesn’t always occur. For example – you may always have a big Christmas lunch/dinner with your family in which case you and your ex may agree that you forgo Christmas morning each year so that your children always get to celebrate this with you.


The important thing when you are talking about Christmas is that you try to limit the amount of time that the children spend in the car and the number of changeovers. The children want to enjoy Christmas day – they want to play with their toys and spend time with you so try to keep this the focus for both of you when you are having your discussions. As much as possible try to be clear and set out who is responsible for picking up, dropping off; what time this will occur and where.


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For each of you though I wish you all a safe and merry Christmas!