Co Parenting

No-one will see the world the same way you do.
I was having a conversation recently when I was reminded of a story about a teacher and his class.  The parents, I were talking too were both trying to convince me that they were right and the other was wrong.  In the scheme of things, it did not matter which is why I shared this story...
Why does my ex always accuse me?
I was talking to Adam and Jo , two parents who are new to the world of co parenting.  They each shared remarks made by their children (13 and 10 years old) to each of them about the other.  With each word being spoken the level of conflict and heightened emotions were building, buildin...
Communicating with my ex
I was talking to a John*  who was telling me all about the issues he had with his ex *Sam. John and Sam had 2 children which were living with both of them on an equal time arrangement.   But you see, John didn’t trust a thing that Sam said.  If Sam told John that he and the ch...
When it comes to communication it isn’t about winning every argument
I was in the park the other day watching this little boy and his father interact with one another. As my daughter and I watched it took me back to this great story I was told about a young boy who was taught a valuable lesson by his Father. All about controlling emotions and how the words we say r...
How to Communicate Effectively with the other parent
One of the greatest causes of conflict in any co parenting relationship is miscommunication. As humans we always think we are much better at communicating than what we actually are.  Especially when it comes to listening.  I recently read a story of an old man and his grandson who were w...
How do you get the other parent see your point of view?
How often have you thought to yourself.... why can't my ex see things my way???? Well for every time you have thought of this, so have they.  Let me tell you a story about Sam. Sam’s relationship with Jenny ended just over two (2) years ago and during that time the conflict hadn’...
Why do I have to talk to my ex about the kids?
Communicate…. Or risk the court taking a dim view of your actions…. Easier said than done! Have you ever felt like your lawyer is giving you advice that is simply impossible to action?  How many times have you had a professional tell you that you should just get over it...
How do I cope with ongoing communication from my ex?
Have you ever had one of those days when you are getting bombarded with message, after message, after message and you just don't know what to do. The constant flow of messages just makes you want to scream until you just turn everything off, put your head in the sand and pretend they don't exist . ...
Stop fighting when the children are around.
Don't forget you are the adult.   Recently I witnessed an event that made me sick to the stomach, and it reminded me that it is so easy to get caught up in the moment. To be focused on the point and issue at hand that we can forget the bigger picture.   What was the event? It was a cha...
Christmas Day - How are you celebrating yours?
How are you spending Christmas this year?   Christmas is only a few weeks away now – and today we are going to talk about how to organize Christmas Day. If you have parenting orders in place then this may not be relevant for you but if you don’t have orders in place then here are ...