Divorce

Keep me out of Court
Keep me out of court!!!!!!!   Have you separated recently and are wondering what’s next.  Have you heard from friends, neighbours, colleagues about the cost, delays and emotional toil going to Court can take?  You are not alone.   Nearly everyone involved in the family ...
I have rights to see my child... or do I?
Who has the rights - the parent or the child?   If I had a $1 for every time a parent said to me “but I have rights” - I would be very rich by now!  The truth is - you don’t have rights. Your children do.   It is not your right to spend time with your kids.  ...
Communication Post-Divorce
Communication Post-Divorce Communicating with your ex-partner is not always the easiest thing in the world to do.  Often it depends on how you communicated during your relationship and what circumstances occurred for your relationship to finish.  For those that just fell out of love but remain b...
Legal Context of Social Work in Domestic Violence
Legal context of social work in domestic violence Domestic violence laws in Australia are complicated as each State and Territory have different laws, which can make it difficult to understand what protection orders mean in different parts of the country.  The Queensland Parliament updated the...
Technology Facilitated Abuse in Co-Parenting Communication
Technology facilitated abuse in co-parenting communication It is common for victims of domestic and family violence to be court ordered to co-parent with their ex-partner.  Just like separated families who have not experienced domestic or family violence, regular communication with your ex-partner ...
Separation with domestic violence
Separation with domestic violence If you are considering leaving a relationship that is dominated by domestic violence, there are many things for you to think about before you walk out that door.  Of course, if you are in physical danger, get out right now!  And please DON’T GO BACK!  Research ...
What Does Coercive Control Look Like?
What does coercive control look like? Coercive control is a tactic used by perpetrators of domestic and family violence that requires no physical contact with their victim.  They can use coercive control to isolate, stalk, harass and intimidate all through seemingly innocent means.  The aim of coe...
Co-parenting Communications and DV Relationships
Co-parenting Communications and DV Relationships Communicating about your children with your co-parent who is either your ex-spouse or significant other is never an easy thing to do.  Parents who do communicate successfully, keep their children as the focus of their communications and they respect...
The Subtleties Of Domestic Violence
The Subtleties Of Domestic Violence Most people today have heard about domestic or family violence.  But usually what comes to mind is loud screaming, broken bones and bruised faces.  We expect to see the consequences of the domestic violence and without that visual evidence, it...
Co-Parenting and School
Co-Parenting and school   Who else here haves children in Kindergarten and ready to start school in 2018? Have you decided which school they will be going to? Have you chosen a school and your ex another? Being a parent is tough enough but when you are battling an ex as well it can feel like t...
Power of You - Harnessing your power
This morning I found that I had some time to myself (a rare occurrence these days). So I seized that opportunity and made my way to a local coffee shop with my journal in hand.   I never know what is going to come out when I sit there with a pen and my journal. Today I found myself writing abou...
Dating after divorce
Do's & Don'ts to Avoid Relationship Mistakes While Dating After a Divorce   Dating after divorce will never be easy. You will always feel the need to move on and go with your life, but there will always be fear of repeating the same mistakes.   Don’t worry. Getting back in the dating wor...
Keeping your family home
You could keep your home through your divorce The stress of separation and divorce doesn't need to be coupled with the loss of your family home. This is a really important time to have a conversation with a trusted professional about your finances to discuss your options. You may be surprised with t...
Single Parents of Teens
3 Things Single Parents Of Teens Must Do To Keep Sane No one ever claims being a single parent is easy and as single parents of teens you know this to especially be the case. In fact, media portrayals of single parenthood rarely glamourize it. Struggles with maintaining a balance between single life...
Focus on a healthy mind
How can you keep your mind as healthy as possible during a separation? If you are reading this article, you are more than likely a parent who is trying to recover from a break-up. To keep with the theme of this month which is health, I’d love to talk to you about some of the ways you keep can keep...
Applying for a divorce
Applying for a divorce yourself?   First and foremost – I am not providing you with legal advice. All I am going to do is show you where to get the forms from so that if you are applying for a divorce yourself you can. Secondly however for my own protection you should always seek the advice o...
Legal Coach - do you have one?
A Legal Coach - moving away from the traditional lawyer/client relationship This month we are looking at the concept of divorce (not child custody or property). To start I wanted to talk to you about a legal coach.   I was speaking to a lawyer recently and we were talking about the different of...
The power of letting go
Letting Go It is time to learn and accept that we cannot control everything With Easter being just around the corner it is the perfect time to start thinking about letting go, acknowledging and accepting what we can and cannot control. Each of us will have different views about what is and is not ac...
It's your ex's birthday ...
This week we are talking about birthdays and in particular Your ex’s birthday Yes I know you are no longer in a relationship and I am not suggesting you continue to celebrate each others birthdays; this is about how your children celebrate and perceive their parent’s birthdays (i.e. your ex's bi...
Co Parenting Adolescents
Co parenting Adolescents Today we are talking about teenagers (aka adolescents). Adolescents can be difficult at the best of times, but when it comes to co parenting adolescents and trying to ensure that they spend time with both of you, life can become even more complicated. Adolescents as you know...